How to change

In counseling work, for some folks, it’s about helping them to shift their thinking/framing in order to shift their feelings/stories/identities and actions.

For some, it’s about shifting their identities/mindsets/stories in order to shift their feelings, thinking and actions.

For some, it’s about shifting their actions in order to shift their thinking and feelings/stories/identities.

Each have preferences like right handedness or left handedness.

Most of the time, especially with the “difficult stuff”, we have to use all of the above strategies at the same time in order to pivot into another more helpful mindset/identity/story/thinking/feeling and action depending on context. This can then lead to a more helpful outcome.

I think this is CBT Cognitive Behavioural Therapy/ACT Acceptance Commitment Therapy, DBT Dialectical Behavioural Therapy in a nutshell. Simple but not easy.

It’s like unlocking a very difficult lock at times. It can seem so far and impossible but yet, so close and possible.