The Hidden Struggle: Emotional Colorblindness

If feelings and emotions are like colors, then some of our patients are “colorblind” to them. This can be mild, moderate, or severe. The challenge is, they may not even be aware of it.

And that’s where the difficulties can begin.

It can lead to grief, anxiety, maladjustment, and relationship issues.

So, what’s the solution? 

The first step is to recognize it. Acknowledge that they are “colorblind” to feelings, emotionally accept and embrace it, learn more about it, but do not tie it to their self-worth. Adapt to it, and find trusted people who are not “colorblind” to feelings to complement them. 

I wonder if you can relate?

Mac vs Windows: A Metaphor for Neurodiversity

I often explain neurodivergence versus neurotypical functioning using a simple analogy: Mac iOS vs Microsoft Windows.

Neither is inherently good or bad. What works well—or doesn’t—depends entirely on the context.

A Mac thrives in a Mac environment.

Windows functions best in a Windows-compatible world.

In my counselling work, I often see both neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals struggling—not because of who they are, but because they’re operating in a context that doesn’t suit them.

It’s hard to change who you are. But when you understand your own operating system—your brain, how it operates, your needs, your values—you can begin to find, adapt, or even create the right environment for yourself. And that can make a profound difference.

The right context can reduce stress, ease inner conflict, and lower the risk of developing Adjustment Disorder with anxious or depressed mood.

Understanding yourself isn’t just self-awareness—it’s a pathway to resilience.

When Your Mind Becomes a Trap: How Shifting Roles Can Set You Free

In counseling work, one of the hardest thing for patients to embrace is the idea of “self as context” i.e. to step out or “zoom out” of your “identity/mindset/thoughts/feelings” in order to observe or shift your perspective on your current context.

It requires one to hold one’s “identity, mindset, thoughts and feelings” more lightly for psychological flexibility.

By seeing and experiencing it in a different way, it can help the individual to get unstuck from their current troubles and pivot.

It’s like your life is happening in a movie studio, and you are playing multiple roles in different movies and in different episodes.

One moment you are a Doctor. In another moment you are a husband, partner or wife. Another moment, you are a sister, brother, friend, impostor, employer, dad, mum, inner child, the “not good enough person” etc.

If you are unable to shift your mindset, identity, character or role, to be more congruent or more helpful for your context, you are in trouble.

An adjustment disorder may be the result.

More Than Achievement: Why Growth Matters Most

In counseling work, one of the most common pattern I see is, people linking their self worth or “happiness” to achievements.

But when we dig deeper, it’s more about personal growth rather than the objective achievements themselves. Achievements act like a kind of “proxy” for their personal growth journey. 

So for some who may have objectively achieved a lot, but if those achievements are stagnating or regressing, they can be deeply unhappy.

Whereas for some who may have achieved much less, but are growing or progressing, they can be very content and happy.

Growth or moving towards/progressing towards their values is a key strategy for better mental health.

I wonder if you can relate or see it in the people you are caring for.